Wednesday, July 22, 2015

On Mean Girls, Kindness, and Rising above.

We all have our naysayers, our "haters" if you will. If you're a woman, I'm 100 percent sure you are all too familiar with the mean girls. The thing is, even out of school or work, there are mean girls. Even in the 40s, 50s, etc. It's almost too easy to be negative and bitter and let your anger, jealousy and frustration play out in social media in the form of bitchy memes or statuses. Life is hard enough and I enjoy instagram and all the artisans I have found and facebook to be able to stretch my writing muscles. Today, I let a negative force get to me and I resorted, immaturely, with one of those angry instagram memes. I took it down 10 minutes later, realizing I had played into the negativity. I also felt embarrassed and upset with myself. We all have lost people in our lives, and the people who really touch us, that we miss and love beyond earth, are the ones that showed us kindness. I truly believe kindness is the best legacy to live.

I thought of people during that time, that showed me kindness, that impressed and inspired me with their tolerance and love for the world. Thinking about people who inspire me, whether it was an act of kindness or a lifetime friendship, makes me want to do better. I thought about my cousin Maeve, who aside from her awesome Vintage wardrobe always stuns me with the most tolerant views and outlooks on society. It's a beautiful thing and often, after I read something on instagram, I think "why wasn't I this aware at her age?". I thought about an acquaintance, Liz, who messaged me Sunday after church to say how nice of a mass it was for my dad's. My heart hurt that day and that gracious message made me smile. Then I thought how I never put my best foot forward the handful of times I met her and truly felt sorry for that. It was a reminded to put the best version of myself out there and always be kind. I thought about my friend Rachael who's love and compassion for animals and the earth really opened my eyes to these issues and made me think how important passion is in a person. I thought about my neighbor, Jennifer, who is so sweet. It threw me off when my boyfriend said she had spoken so well of me. I've gotten so use to "mean girls" and the mean things people say, it throws me off when people are positive- but it throws me off in the best way. When I was going through all this, she knocked on my door while I was frantically looking for a shirt and decompressing all my thoughts (haha) all to give me some oracle cards. That act of kindness when my mind was racing meant the world to me, and I didn't even get a chance to see her. 

Positive people make me want to be positive. I needed a reminder today that kindness is everything. That the people who I look up to, admire, or inspired by, even if they don't know it - are all kind people who give positivity back. Those were just a few examples of people and moments of niceness that touched my heart. I know what some people think of me or have to say, and we all have our haters. But I'd rather keep living and trying to be the best I can be. It's so easy to fall into the negative, mean girl trap. I'll post a 1,000 flower pictures and 1,000 stories of good things before I let myself regress, before I ever fall into being a negative, bitter, jealous "mean girl". I had a human reaction of anger and frustration but it served as a reminder to do better. I'll walk away with sunshine in my head because life gets dark and cloudy enough without having to add negativity to it. I'm thankful for sunny skies, hydrangeas, a compliment, a good song on the radio but most importantly- positive people. 

"I believe in the magic of kindness"


  1. This is such a true post. Being positive, event when you want to be negative is hard, but in the end it's worth it.


    1. Yup, it can be very hard not to let the negativity and anger get to you and want to retaliate in a negative way. But I'd rather walk away with my head held high. There are things worth fighting for, petty drama is not one.

  2. Really great post:) Have a nice day!